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The Sexual Autobiography Continued: First Tries

The other night I had amazing sex with my husband. It felt like pleasure was shooting out my toes like rays of light. It occurred to me that if life is suffering, the other side of the coin is that life is pleasure. I grew up with a lot of Zen koans and the idea that life is suffering always felt depressing to me. Another interpretation is that life includes suffering and there is no way around this but I would add that life also includes pleasure and we should enjoy the shit out of it because odds are suffering is right around the corner! In the same way that we tend to run from suffering, many of us also run from pleasure and are taught from a young age not to trust our own joy or ecstasy. We see this diminish in children over time, going from complete uncensored pleasure in the simple things to learning to behave themselves, sit still, and dampen their enjoyment.

I want to live in a world where children are raised to enjoy their bodies and have a clear attunement to their own …