Pregnant Pleasure

An exploration of sexuality during pregnancy

Deep in the throws of labor with my first baby

I’m 5 months pregnant and I’m not a virgin. There I said it! And you know what else? I still have sex regularly with my husband. Whew, feels good to get that off my chest. The other day I went out for pizza with a friend, we’ll call him Bob, and he asked me about my lover (husband) and my sex life. Bob and I have known each other since we were kids and we’ve watched each other grow up. We’ve been talking about sex for a long time but it felt weirdly refreshing as a pregnant lady to be asked about my sex life and I realized that I feel this stigma around pregnancy, that with my growing belly there is an assumption that I’m no longer sexual. It’s strange to experience de-sexualization as a mother, especially since most babies are a direct result of sex.

I told Bob that my sex life is weird and surprising right now because each time I have sex my body is completely different and new to me. It’s almost like being a virgin again only …